I was 5 years old when my neighbour started to abuse me. I didn’t know what he was doing was wrong. I just knew it was a secret. He exposed me to pornography too. He would give me pornographic magazines which I had to study and read and then he would make me do the things I saw in the magazines to him. So, I started learning everything about sex and seduction from the age of 5. This lasted for the 5 years I lived in that compound.

I also realised late in secondary school and my early university days that I had alter egos. I would switch personalities. I could be myself today, then tomorrow, another person. Some of my personalities were very confident, other personalities were very vengeful, while others were seductive in nature. When men started to approach me as a lady, I could switch character just to be with whoever it was. So of course, sex wasn’t an issue for me because all I needed to do was switch characters and become ‘Posh Spice’.

Sometime in the year 2009, robbers came to rob my family at home and I was raped by 2 of them.

I moved to Lagos in 2010, the following year. I saw people live life; I saw people thriving, but there was no capacity inside of me to be like them because I had so much bitterness, hatred, and unforgiveness. I knew that I needed to go back to God. 

I rededicated my life to Christ and I also got myself mentors (my pastor and his wife). I ensured that I was a 100% accountable to them. I can never tell my life’s story without including them. Everything I am today is possible only because they allowed God to use them. It was as if I was born afresh. They literally helped me to renew my mind. I then began to see traces of the strength that I had. 

I also did something about my situation after praying. I had to go for therapy sessions. I always tell people, prayer does not wipe away rape and abuse. It gives you the strength and the tenacity to deal with it but there are psychological effects that you need to deal with. Nigerians have to get to a point where they visit psychologists. They are trained for this purpose. Visit a therapist. They will help you to work on your mind. Prayer will open your heart and it will give you strength & grit to handle things.